Hands off my Pilot, HO!

UGH!  I NEED TO VENT!

Bf just rang to say goodnight… Some hostie (from a different UK airline also staying in the same hotel as his crew are), who will here on in be referred to as: ‘the cheap ho’ just tried it on with him… So, naturally, he told her about me and Baby, as a gentle way of letting her down and letting her know that he was not interested, without hurting her feelings; but the CHEAP HO (excuse my language) responded by saying:

“Oh you must find it must so difficult to be in a relationship with someone from outside the industry, they just don’t understand do they?” (whilst placing her hand on him in a ‘friendly’, ‘reassuring’ way)

He recoiled, quite shocked and reviled by her tasteless and tacky behaviour.  He rarely confronts people in a conversation, but clearly he knew subtlety was not enough, and so he was thankfully quite assertive in setting her straight! He told her that he would choose me over a hostie any day; since he felt it would actually be much harder (in so many) ways, since both partners in a couple working airline rosters, and being away from home, in different time zones etc was not his idea of how family life should be.

He has also said that he could never live with someone that does the job she does, because he would struggle to deal with the ‘cabin crew party culture’.  Whilst they don’t all party hard, cabin crew seem to party far more, and far harder than flight deck do. At this point, one of the female hosties from his own crew piped up to support him, saying that she is in a relationship with a short-haul pilot from yet another UK (budget airline); and said her boyfriend totally struggles with their relationship on all levels; especially trust; because he knows the industry better than say-I might! She said that it has made their relationship very difficult to maintain and progress, and she felt that it was far harder to make a relationship work ‘inside’ the industry.

I am SEETHING with anger that the vile cheap ho tried to see if she could chip away at any doubts he ‘might’ have had in his relationship with me; and was prepared to continue in her attempt to seduce him, despite knowing she could potentially wreck a family, rather than backing off when he sent out the subtle ‘I’m not available’ signals, and accepting he is a happy family man who just wasn’t interested in her desperate attempts to pull him!

I’m SO glad though, that he put the cheap ho in her place and was honest with me about it. I feel reassured that we have a close enough bond, and enough trust between us that he can tell me these things, because it’s especially reassuring to know that he asserts himself in those situations, when he knows he needs to.  I’m also glad that another member of his own crew backed him up.  Apparently the cheap ho disappeared with her tail between her legs after that.  Her fellow crew members proceeded to tell Bf and his crew that the cheap ho was always desperately trying to snag a man!

Bf said that after that, he almost pitied her, because (in his own words)

“She obviously thinks that’s the way to go about getting herself a man, but… Well: she’ll never find what she’s looking for that way will she?”

It made me smile.  I know that he is an attractive man, after all, I fancy him-so I’d never expect that other women wouldn’t to find him attractive too!   However, I am totally disgusted by anyone who won’t respect the sanctity of other peoples relationships and families!

What is wrong with some people?!

I’d love to know who she was so that I could send her a picture of my family, and give her a piece of my mind-maybe she’d actually think twice before trying to chip cracks into other peoples relationships?  I’d take some comfort in the fact that she doesn’t work at Bf’s airline, but I feel sorry for the people who’s airline she does work for.

I am just thankful that Bf acted in a way that I could be proud of, and following on from my pledge two posts down, I made sure to voice my feelings of love and pride for the way he conducted himself.  It would have been very easy to direct my frustration at the wrong person in this scenario, and bend his ear, but that just wouldn’t be fair since he conducted himself exactly as I would’ve hoped. So, I decided to vent on here instead-far more productive and cathartic!

It reminded me of a great post I read recently on a blog entry by ‘Pilot’s Wife To Be’ called Air Hostess: Friend or Foe.  The Cheap Ho is definitely a typecast category 2, desperate hostie, and the lovely member of crew who backed up Bf, is a typical category 3, ‘Normal, quite similar to me hostie’. I recommend you have a read; I only wish I’d written it myself!

N.B – These comments have linked discussions going on within them:

Pilot’s who Cheat, and are then stupid enough to BRAG about it!

When Pilots cheat

Reminiscing about the roller coaster of feelings I had about how I’d cope with being an airline pilot’s girlfriend before he was qualified

Your bullets cannot harm ME! MY wings are like a shield of steel!