Comments on: More about the good sides to a pilot relationship! http://partnerofapilot.wordpress.com/2008/11/17/more-about-the-good-sides/ The Candid Diary of an Airline Pilot's Girlfriend Thu, 31 Dec 2009 18:50:25 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Partner of a Pilot http://partnerofapilot.wordpress.com/2008/11/17/more-about-the-good-sides/#comment-4378 Partner of a Pilot Sat, 30 May 2009 00:00:49 +0000 http://partnerofapilot.wordpress.com/?p=1097#comment-4378 Any time :) Any time :)

]]> By: Partner of a Pilot http://partnerofapilot.wordpress.com/2008/11/17/more-about-the-good-sides/#comment-4377 Partner of a Pilot Sat, 30 May 2009 00:00:18 +0000 http://partnerofapilot.wordpress.com/?p=1097#comment-4377 Oh my goodness Red, that sounds bloody awful! Hopefully when the industry picks up again-he can look for something commercial-the airlines are so much more regulated that it sounds like a piece of cake by comparison! Oh my goodness Red, that sounds bloody awful! Hopefully when the industry picks up again-he can look for something commercial-the airlines are so much more regulated that it sounds like a piece of cake by comparison!

]]> By: Red http://partnerofapilot.wordpress.com/2008/11/17/more-about-the-good-sides/#comment-4311 Red Tue, 26 May 2009 15:01:22 +0000 http://partnerofapilot.wordpress.com/?p=1097#comment-4311 I just wanted to thank you for your blog. I did an internet search to see if others have similar issues to those we experience with hubby as a pilot and found yours. While our situation is obviously different, it does remind me why I fell in love with my pilot in the first place. My hubby is a corporate pilot for a very, very, very, very wealthy man. He is at their beck and call, which means plans can never be made, even on special events. He is home more than he was when a charter pilot, yet, now he isn't given time off as a rule, i.e. vacation, because the family believes he has enough time off. (His time off is spent catching up on sleep, running errands for their plane, and trying to fit in as a hubby/father would if he were a 9-5er. Funny, their family gets to make plans and have family vacations, but we cannot. We cannot afford last minute plane tickets and do not have the benefit of using their aircraft. In fact, we expense every single trip he flies for the family, and the charters in between! By the time the reimbursements come back in, we need it for the next trip. One month alone, cost us $7K, and in today's credit crunch, the credit card company cut us off, saying it's "unusual spending" and therefore, all of our extra money is used from one month to the next to cover expenses. Hubby being home and jet lagged is awful, because when he's home we (I) would like it to be quality time, yet it's not. We have a 9-5 lifestyle because of school and my job, so his being home doesn't even fit into our lifestyle and sometimes he's too tired to make it fit. Most times I now look forward for his departure for a few short days at a time, simply to breathe.... and can't wait for his return so I can get the bills paid. Yeah, the sex is always good on a return home. In our few short years together (he's a widower and I'm divorced) we have gotten to spend 2 weekends together, alone. Even our wedding/honeymoon was spent pleasing the little one and then heading home early because the family he flew changed plans at the last minute. Is he an awful man, nope, he's just a pilot doing what he loves. He has trouble finding the balance between being a pilot and a hubby and father. I have had to think about my own needs and wonder whether they will ever be met, and believe that relationships are truly about compromise and companionship, so I guess I'm ok with it all. Have I settled, Yes. Why? Because I do love him and find that I love what he does for a living and would never ask him to change it. He loves flying the jet. He wishes he could fly the jet where it needs to go, then come home. He doesn't even really enjoy the lengthy stays in some of the excotic places, most people would love to be, because he feels guilty he's away and can't participate in his family's life. He wants to be a pilot, as simple as that. My two cents: These corporate jet owners need to realize that pilots are human beings and should be treated with the same respect as a 9-5er. Give him a corporate credit card so his family doesn't have to wonder whether the bills will get paid this month or next and incur all of the late fees associated therewith. Give this man a vacation with his family! This is why I have reread your post..... it's a great reminder of why I'm married to a pilot. Thank you. I just wanted to thank you for your blog. I did an internet search to see if others have similar issues to those we experience with hubby as a pilot and found yours. While our situation is obviously different, it does remind me why I fell in love with my pilot in the first place.

My hubby is a corporate pilot for a very, very, very, very wealthy man. He is at their beck and call, which means plans can never be made, even on special events. He is home more than he was when a charter pilot, yet, now he isn’t given time off as a rule, i.e. vacation, because the family believes he has enough time off. (His time off is spent catching up on sleep, running errands for their plane, and trying to fit in as a hubby/father would if he were a 9-5er. Funny, their family gets to make plans and have family vacations, but we cannot. We cannot afford last minute plane tickets and do not have the benefit of using their aircraft. In fact, we expense every single trip he flies for the family, and the charters in between! By the time the reimbursements come back in, we need it for the next trip. One month alone, cost us $7K, and in today’s credit crunch, the credit card company cut us off, saying it’s “unusual spending” and therefore, all of our extra money is used from one month to the next to cover expenses.

Hubby being home and jet lagged is awful, because when he’s home we (I) would like it to be quality time, yet it’s not. We have a 9-5 lifestyle because of school and my job, so his being home doesn’t even fit into our lifestyle and sometimes he’s too tired to make it fit. Most times I now look forward for his departure for a few short days at a time, simply to breathe…. and can’t wait for his return so I can get the bills paid. Yeah, the sex is always good on a return home.

In our few short years together (he’s a widower and I’m divorced) we have gotten to spend 2 weekends together, alone. Even our wedding/honeymoon was spent pleasing the little one and then heading home early because the family he flew changed plans at the last minute. Is he an awful man, nope, he’s just a pilot doing what he loves. He has trouble finding the balance between being a pilot and a hubby and father. I have had to think about my own needs and wonder whether they will ever be met, and believe that relationships are truly about compromise and companionship, so I guess I’m ok with it all. Have I settled, Yes. Why? Because I do love him and find that I love what he does for a living and would never ask him to change it. He loves flying the jet. He wishes he could fly the jet where it needs to go, then come home. He doesn’t even really enjoy the lengthy stays in some of the excotic places, most people would love to be, because he feels guilty he’s away and can’t participate in his family’s life. He wants to be a pilot, as simple as that.

My two cents: These corporate jet owners need to realize that pilots are human beings and should be treated with the same respect as a 9-5er. Give him a corporate credit card so his family doesn’t have to wonder whether the bills will get paid this month or next and incur all of the late fees associated therewith. Give this man a vacation with his family!

This is why I have reread your post….. it’s a great reminder of why I’m married to a pilot. Thank you.

]]> By: Contimplating http://partnerofapilot.wordpress.com/2008/11/17/more-about-the-good-sides/#comment-2150 Contimplating Mon, 01 Dec 2008 03:10:50 +0000 http://partnerofapilot.wordpress.com/?p=1097#comment-2150 thanks so much for all your responses. I am currently dating a guy who is goin through the motions of becoming a pilot... and he has such a powerful passion to fly. i often have looked at the negatives of this career choice, and so it has been so refreshing to see their is highlights and bonuses to us partnering together in this. I agree with a lot of you.. I hate seeing him be bored in his 9-5 job and whenever he talks about flying and being in a jet or even a plane he lights up. You've given me more hope for sticking this through even when things have been difficult. thanks so much for all your responses. I am currently dating a guy who is goin through the motions of becoming a pilot… and he has such a powerful passion to fly. i often have looked at the negatives of this career choice, and so it has been so refreshing to see their is highlights and bonuses to us partnering together in this. I agree with a lot of you.. I hate seeing him be bored in his 9-5 job and whenever he talks about flying and being in a jet or even a plane he lights up. You’ve given me more hope for sticking this through even when things have been difficult.

]]> By: Summer http://partnerofapilot.wordpress.com/2008/11/17/more-about-the-good-sides/#comment-2050 Summer Tue, 25 Nov 2008 04:54:21 +0000 http://partnerofapilot.wordpress.com/?p=1097#comment-2050 Oh, I too, agree with your list. And man, who can resist that uniform. When you have a happy husband who enjoys his job, I don't find that he's irritable when he comes home. Could I force him into a 9-5 job - probably. But I never would. He loves what he's doing. And along with the bad, we reap many benefits to the good. In my husband's case, he's gone for a week or so but then he's here for a week or so also. We could take a vacation without using his "vacation time". I wouldn't have it any other way! Oh, I too, agree with your list. And man, who can resist that uniform. When you have a happy husband who enjoys his job, I don’t find that he’s irritable when he comes home. Could I force him into a 9-5 job – probably. But I never would. He loves what he’s doing. And along with the bad, we reap many benefits to the good. In my husband’s case, he’s gone for a week or so but then he’s here for a week or so also. We could take a vacation without using his “vacation time”.

I wouldn’t have it any other way!

]]> By: Partner of a Pilot http://partnerofapilot.wordpress.com/2008/11/17/more-about-the-good-sides/#comment-1940 Partner of a Pilot Fri, 21 Nov 2008 22:15:53 +0000 http://partnerofapilot.wordpress.com/?p=1097#comment-1940 Thanks for your agreement. Pilotswife, I agree on the 'our achievement' comment-well put! Thanks for your agreement. Pilotswife, I agree on the ‘our achievement’ comment-well put!

]]> By: Pilotswife http://partnerofapilot.wordpress.com/2008/11/17/more-about-the-good-sides/#comment-1938 Pilotswife Fri, 21 Nov 2008 22:11:57 +0000 http://partnerofapilot.wordpress.com/?p=1097#comment-1938 I would have to completely agree with your reasons. I love what my husband career choice is, sometimes it is challenging, but not in any other way other careers' may be. The time apart strengthen are bonds, and the homecoming is one of the MANY blessings, of being married to a pilot. This lifestlye is not for everyone-It is only for the strong, independent , woman. But I could never imagine my life style any other way.My husband worked hard to accomplish his dream, he did what most men do not, he made a career out of his passion,he made his dream a reality, and did not settle for anything else- I don't think of it as "his" career, I think of it as "our" accomplishment, we are more than a married couple, we are partners. For me there is more good than bad being married to a pilot, yes the blogs sometimes are negative, or may appear that way to an outsider, but it you are a pilots wife or girlfriend, you know underneath it all, they are written by some of the most passionate women you will ever meet, and in no way intends to make anyone believe, we are not 100% committed and in love with our pilot! I would have to completely agree with your reasons. I love what my husband career choice is, sometimes it is challenging, but not in any other way other careers’ may be. The time apart strengthen are bonds, and the homecoming is one of the MANY blessings, of being married to a pilot.
This lifestlye is not for everyone-It is only for the strong, independent , woman. But I could never imagine my life style any other way.My husband worked hard to accomplish his dream, he did what most men do not, he made a career out of his passion,he made his dream a reality, and did not settle for anything else- I don’t think of it as “his” career, I think of it as “our” accomplishment, we are more than a married couple, we are partners. For me there is more good than bad being married to a pilot, yes the blogs sometimes are negative, or may appear that way to an outsider, but it you are a pilots wife or girlfriend, you know underneath it all, they are written by some of the most passionate women you will ever meet, and in no way intends to make anyone believe, we are not 100% committed and in love with our pilot!

]]> By: Nicola Lowe http://partnerofapilot.wordpress.com/2008/11/17/more-about-the-good-sides/#comment-1883 Nicola Lowe Wed, 19 Nov 2008 06:02:08 +0000 http://partnerofapilot.wordpress.com/?p=1097#comment-1883 You could maybe sum most of that up with "each to their own". Well plus "I LOVE uniforms" obviously :). I think there are as many things that make relationships tick in this world as there are relationships. I'm a little envious of your though. [ All My Comments at http://blodcast.com/cheap-flights ] You could maybe sum most of that up with “each to their own”. Well plus “I LOVE uniforms” obviously :) .

I think there are as many things that make relationships tick in this world as there are relationships. I’m a little envious of your though.

[ All My Comments at http://blodcast.com/cheap-flights ]

]]> By: Kate http://partnerofapilot.wordpress.com/2008/11/17/more-about-the-good-sides/#comment-1870 Kate Tue, 18 Nov 2008 16:05:27 +0000 http://partnerofapilot.wordpress.com/?p=1097#comment-1870 Omg. I LOVE IT! I know that I would not have PilotMan any other way. I know he loves his career and I know he would HATE having a 9-5. He would get bored. And the whole thing about butterflies, well let's just say he left last night, and already the txting has begun. It makes us excited, anxious, and I know you know it it feels when you kiss one another after a long trip. It's so romantic, deep and full of passion. And as much as when he is gone why I question why in the hell I got in this situation, or I start feeling like he doesn't care...that embrace when he gets home, is a wonderful reminder of just how much he cares. I have to hold on to that, or else none of us will make it. I love my free time too, especially since I have a kid to raise, and work where I am able to stay at home with my kid as well! You have to be able to miss one another, the absence does make the heart grow fonder. And as much as I want to bitch about "oh wa wa wa" I think we should have the right to vent some! But that is what is so great about the internet. We have all found support through this. And we all know what we are getting into. But it is nice to have support! GOOD BLOG! Omg. I LOVE IT! I know that I would not have PilotMan any other way. I know he loves his career and I know he would HATE having a 9-5. He would get bored. And the whole thing about butterflies, well let’s just say he left last night, and already the txting has begun. It makes us excited, anxious, and I know you know it it feels when you kiss one another after a long trip. It’s so romantic, deep and full of passion. And as much as when he is gone why I question why in the hell I got in this situation, or I start feeling like he doesn’t care…that embrace when he gets home, is a wonderful reminder of just how much he cares. I have to hold on to that, or else none of us will make it. I love my free time too, especially since I have a kid to raise, and work where I am able to stay at home with my kid as well! You have to be able to miss one another, the absence does make the heart grow fonder. And as much as I want to bitch about “oh wa wa wa” I think we should have the right to vent some! But that is what is so great about the internet. We have all found support through this. And we all know what we are getting into. But it is nice to have support! GOOD BLOG!

]]> By: Jen http://partnerofapilot.wordpress.com/2008/11/17/more-about-the-good-sides/#comment-1838 Jen Mon, 17 Nov 2008 22:30:48 +0000 http://partnerofapilot.wordpress.com/?p=1097#comment-1838 Amen... Sometimes we do get bitchy on our respective blogs, but that is the nature of women. I'm with you that I wouldn't have my husband any other way, because he is healthy and happy and fulfilled in a way that every "ground" job he's had doesn't make him. And relationships are much better when both people are happy. I love my free time too. And I love the reunion when he gets home :) Amen… Sometimes we do get bitchy on our respective blogs, but that is the nature of women. I’m with you that I wouldn’t have my husband any other way, because he is healthy and happy and fulfilled in a way that every “ground” job he’s had doesn’t make him. And relationships are much better when both people are happy. I love my free time too. And I love the reunion when he gets home :)

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